對撒謊者最好的報(bào)復(fù)，就是讓他相信你真的信了他的謊言。

當(dāng)我們打算做一件我們潛意識里知道注定要失敗的事情時(shí)，就會征詢別人的建議，這樣就可以把失敗怪罪到別人頭上。

當(dāng)你真心想說“不”的時(shí)候，就會更難說出口。

Never say no twice if you mean it.

Your reputation is harmed the most by what you say to defend it.

The only objective definition of aging is when a person starts to talk about aging.

They will envy you for your success， for your wealth， for your intelligence， for your looks， for your status ——but rarely for your wisdom.

Most of what they call humility is successfully disguised arrogance.

If you want people to read a book， tell them it is overrated.

如果你說“不”是認(rèn)真的，就用不著再說第二次。

對你名譽(yù)損害最大的是你為了維護(hù)它而說的話。

當(dāng)一個(gè)人開始談?wù)撍ダ系臅r(shí)候，他就真的老了。

人們會羨慕你的成功、你的財(cái)富、你的聰明、你的相貌、你的地位——但是很少有人會羨慕你的智慧。

所謂的“謙遜”，其實(shí)通常都是掩飾得比較成功的傲慢。

如果你想讓人們讀某一本書，告訴他們它被高估了。

You never win an argument until they attack your person.

Nothing is more permanent than “temporary” arrangements， deficits， truces and relationships； and nothing is more temporary than “permanent” ones.

The most painful moments are not those we spend with uninteresting people； rather， they are those spent with uninteresting people trying hard to be interesting.

Hatred is love with a typo somewhere in the computer code， correctable but very hard to find.

I wonder whether a bitter enemy would be jealous if he discovered that I hated someone else.

只有當(dāng)他們開始對你展開人身攻擊時(shí)，你才算是贏得了一場爭論。

沒有什么比“臨時(shí)”的安排、赤字、休戰(zhàn)和情感關(guān)系更加恒久，沒有什么比“恒久”的這些東西更加臨時(shí)。

讓我們最痛苦的，不是跟沒意思的人在一起，而是跟努力表現(xiàn)得有意思的沒意思的人在一起。

恨是某一行代碼出了錯(cuò)誤的愛，這錯(cuò)誤可以改正，但很難被找到。

假如我的某個(gè)死敵發(fā)現(xiàn)我恨的是另一個(gè)人，我不知道他會不會感到嫉妒。

The characteristic feature of the loser is to be moan， in general terms， mankind's flaws， biases， contradictions， and irrationality——without exploiting them for fun and profit.

The test of whether you really liked a book is if you reread it (and how many times)； the test of whether you really liked someone's company is if you are ready to meet him again and again——the rest is spin， or that variety of sentiment now called self-esteem.

We ask “why is he rich (or poor)？” not “why isn't he richer (or poorer)？”；“why is the crisis so deep？” not “why isn't it deeper？”

Hatred is much harder to fake than love. You hear of fake love； never of fake hate.

失敗者的特點(diǎn)是會抱怨人類的缺陷、偏見、自相矛盾和缺乏理智，但又不利用這些東西追求自己的歡樂和利益。

你是否真的喜歡一本書，判斷標(biāo)準(zhǔn)是你是否會重讀它（以及重讀了多少遍）；你是否真的喜歡一個(gè)人的陪伴，判斷標(biāo)準(zhǔn)是你是否愿意再次遇見他——剩下的都是空話，或者是所謂“自尊”。

我們會問“他為什么有錢（或是沒錢）”，而不是“他為什么不能更有錢（或是更沒錢）”；我們會問“為什么危機(jī)如此深重”，而不是“為什么危機(jī)不更加深重”。

恨遠(yuǎn)比愛難以偽造。你聽說過虛假的愛，但還沒聽說過虛假的恨。

The opposite of manliness isn't cowardice； it's technology .

Usually， what we call “good listener” is someone with skillfully polished indifference.

It is the appearance of inconsistency， and not its absence， that makes people attractive.

You remember emails you sent that were not answered better than emails that you did not answer.

People reserve standard compliments for those who do not threaten their pride；the others they often praise by calling “arregant”.

男子氣概的反義詞不是怯懦，而是科技。

一般來說，所謂“好的傾聽者”其實(shí)對他們傾聽的內(nèi)容并不關(guān)心，只不過他們擅長掩蓋這種漠不關(guān)心。

正是人們表現(xiàn)出來的自相矛盾之處讓他們富有魅力。

你記得住自己發(fā)出去卻沒收到回復(fù)的郵件，卻記不住自己收到了卻沒有回復(fù)的郵件。

人們會把恭維之詞留給那些對他們的驕傲感沒有威脅的人；至于那些威脅到他們驕傲感的人，他們會用“驕傲”來評價(jià)。

Since Cato the Elder， a certain type of maturity has shown up when one starts blaming the new generation for “shallowness” and praising the previous one for its "values".

It is as difficult to avoid bugging others with advice on how to exercise and other health matters as it is to stick to an exercise schedule.

By praising someone for his lack of defects you are also implying his lack of virtues.

When she shouts that what you did was unforgivable， she has already started to forgive you.

Being unimaginative is only a problem when you are easily bored.

從古羅馬的老加圖開始，人們一直通過斥責(zé)下一輩人的“淺薄”、贊揚(yáng)上一輩人的“價(jià)值”來表現(xiàn)自己的成熟。

要忍住不給別人提鍛煉和保健方面的建議，簡直跟自己堅(jiān)持鍛煉一樣難。

表揚(yáng)一個(gè)人沒有缺點(diǎn)的時(shí)候，你也在指出他沒有優(yōu)點(diǎn)。

當(dāng)她嚷嚷著無法原諒你做的事情的時(shí)候，她已經(jīng)開始原諒你了。

只有當(dāng)你動不動就感到厭倦的時(shí)候，缺乏想象力才算是個(gè)問題。

We call narcissistic those individuals who behave as if they were the central residents of the world； those who do exactly the same in a set of two we call lovers.

Friendship that ends was never one； there was at least one sucker in it.

Most people fear being without audiovisual stimulation because they are too repetitive when they think and imagine things on their own.

Unrequited hate is vastly more diminishing for the self than unrequited love. You can't react by reciprocating.

For the compassionate， sorrow is more easily displaced by another sorrow， than by joy.

那些把自己當(dāng)作世界中心的人，我們稱為自戀者；那些把自己和另一個(gè)人當(dāng)作世界中心的人，我們稱為戀人。

友誼從來不是可以被宣告結(jié)束的，如果是這樣，其中至少有一個(gè)人是傻瓜。

絕大多數(shù)人害怕失去視聽刺激，因?yàn)楫?dāng)他們自己思考和想象時(shí)，總是在重復(fù)同樣的內(nèi)容。

沒有回報(bào)的恨遠(yuǎn)比沒有回報(bào)的愛更能讓人顯得渺小。

對于有同情心的人來說，用新的悲哀替換舊的悲哀，遠(yuǎn)比用快樂替換悲哀要容易。

Wisdom in the young is as unattractive as frivolity in the elderly.

Some people are only funny when they try to be serious.

It is difficult to stop the impulse to reveal secrets in conversation， as if information had the desire to live and the power to multiply.

年輕人的智慧跟老人的輕佻一樣不討人喜歡。

有些人只有在試圖表現(xiàn)得嚴(yán)肅的時(shí)候才顯得滑稽。

談話時(shí)，要忍住不把秘密說出來是很難的，信息仿佛具有生存的欲望和繁殖的能力。

It is a very recent disease to mistake the unobserved for the nonexistent.

Asking science to explain life and vital matters is equivalent to asking a grammarian to explain poetry.

You exist if and only if you are free to do things without a visible objective， with no justification and， above all， outside the dictatorship of someone else's narrative.

把觀察不到的東西當(dāng)作不存在，這是近來開始流行的一種疾病。

讓科學(xué)解釋生活和生命，就像讓語法專家解釋詩歌一樣。

只有當(dāng)你可以自由地做任何事情，不需要明顯的目的、理由和別人的要求時(shí)，你才算真正存在于這世上。

You cannot express the holy in terms made for the profane， but you can discuss the profane in terms made for the holy.

Atheism (materialism) means treating the dead as if they were unborn. I won't. By accepting the sacred， you reinventreligion.

If you can't spontaneously detect (without analyzing) the difference between sacredand profane， you'll never know whatreligion means. You will also never figure out what we commonly call art.You will never understand anything.