推薦序一　構建和諧、健康的親子關系是教育的根本
The core of education is to establish a harmonious and healthy parent-child relationship.

My story therapy work, and my therapeutic story books, have taken me to many places, many countries, many cultures.

借由我的故事治療工作、我的療愈故事書，我曾到過很多地方、很多國家，體驗了各種不同的文化。

A particularly special time was my Autumn Tour in 2015 that finished in Changsha, what I now think of as the “heart” of China. My host was Amanda (Minchang Luo), and my experiences with Amanda and her family, both then and on a return trip in 2016, remain strongly in my memory. We shared many days of training, lovely meals together, long conversations, and an unforgettable holiday to Zhangjiajie National Forest Park.

其中很特別的一次旅行是2015年秋天的中國之旅，長沙是我那次旅行的最后一站，而這座城市成了我記憶中的中國之“心”。我的東道主是Amanda（羅敏暢），我和Amanda以及她的家人那一次的會面，還有一年后（2016年）的再次回訪，給我留下了難忘的印象。我們在一起做故事治療的培訓，一起吃了很多次飯，歡聲笑語、促膝長談，還去張家界國家森林公園度過了幾天美妙的假期！

From my first meeting with Amanda, I have been impressed by her passion and devotion to her Positive Discipline trainings and parent education programs.

從我第一次見到Amanda， 就深深地被她對正面管教和家庭教育事業的熱愛和激情所打動。

I have also been impressed by her intense curiosity to study and learn new ideas, her hard and consistent work building up her Positive Parenting courses, and her ten-year journey in developing this book.

同樣打動我的，還有她對于學習新事物的濃厚的好奇心，她在構建完善正面管教家長課程中一絲不茍的態度，和在醞釀、寫作本書時十年磨一劍的專注。

Therefore, I am very pleased to know this publication is finally birthed and available. And I am honored to be invited to write the foreword for such an important topic!

因此，我非常高興地看到本書終于即將出版。我受邀為這樣一本主題非常有意義的書籍作序，倍感榮幸！

Just as healthy food can nourish a child’s growing body, a healthy approach to positive discipline can nourish a child’s budding soul. This publication is a guidebook for such a healthy approach. Amanda has a special focus on bringing about pro-active and creative solutions, and this was evident in her own parenting and collegial relationships.

正如健康的飲食能夠滋養孩子日益成長的身體，健康的正面管教方式能夠滋養孩子稚嫩的心靈。這本書就是一本關于這種健康教養方式的指南。Amanda特別專注于帶來積極有效和有創意的解決方案，這一點在她自己多年的育兒經歷和與同事的工作關系中都得到了驗證。

Gentle and Firm Parenting: How to Motivate Children's Learning is a wonderful example of active and creative involvement. Each chapter opens a new and important window. The book journeys through all aspects of child-rearing, taking time to include a variety of practical approaches for parents. Amanda shares strategies to help parents learn how to cultivate children’s self-confidence, initiatives, and independent thinking, qualities that will help children grow into well-rounded balanced adults.

《溫和而堅定的教養：激發孩子的學習活力》為父母如何積極而有創意地育兒提供了很棒的參考。每一章都像是打開了一扇新的窗戶。本書涉及了育兒的方方面面，不遺余力地介紹了父母應對各種問題的實用方法。Amanda分享了不少策略，幫助家長們學習怎么培養孩子的自信心、主動性和獨立思考能力，幫助孩子全面成長。

As a mother who raised three sons, I know how many challenges parents face on a daily, monthly and yearly basis. Most of us enter parenting with no training or experience, and we need guidance to help us on one of the most important journeys of a human’s life——being a parent!

作為三個兒子的母親，我非常清楚父母們每天、每月，或是在更長的時段——每年，所要面對的無數挑戰。我們大多數人沒有經過任何培訓或歷練就當了父母，我們需要得到幫助，因為成為父母是人一生中最重要的工作之一！

Amanda’s wisdom, gained from her many years as both a parent and parenting coach, lights up every chapter of this book. I encourage you to explore these pages slowly——they offer important pathways to establish a harmonious and healthy parent-child relationship.

Amanda多年來在育兒和家庭教育導師工作中收獲的智慧之光，閃耀在本書的每一個章節。我鼓勵大家細細研讀這些章節，它將帶你找到構建和諧、健康親子關系的重要途徑。

蘇珊·佩羅

蘇珊·佩羅

來自澳大利亞東海岸，是一名資深的教育學碩士，有超過30年的教學、教師培訓、家長教育的經驗。多年來，蘇珊致力于研究故事在教育中的作用，她為各年齡階層面臨各種困境和挑戰情形的人撰寫療愈故事，療愈的對象從個體到社區到全球。她已著有4本療愈故事書，被翻譯成包括漢語在內的12種語言出版發行。