佚名/Anonymous

每天，我都急切地等待你來(lái)上課，迫不及待地想和你相視一笑，互問早安。有些日子，我變得極其煩躁，只因?yàn)槟阍谏险n前幾秒鐘才走進(jìn)教室。我期盼背后傳來(lái)你的腳步聲，期盼聽到你的聲音，表面上卻假裝看《加州日?qǐng)?bào)》。你今天又遲到了，然而，我并不介意。因?yàn)?，這一個(gè)月來(lái)，我一直渴望與你約會(huì)，今天，我將要實(shí)現(xiàn)這個(gè)愿望。鼓勵(lì)我吧，因?yàn)樽屇阒牢蚁矚g你，需要像從高空跳傘落入大海一樣的勇氣。

我的室友和她的男友在墜入情網(wǎng)之前，做了四個(gè)月的普通朋友。他們一起看電影，一起吃飯，并且經(jīng)常與都認(rèn)識(shí)的朋友聚會(huì)。吃飯時(shí)，他們輪流買單。有一次，我的室友說(shuō)：“他就像一個(gè)女性朋友。”說(shuō)這話時(shí)，她笑得臉都漲紅了。在這種友誼關(guān)系之下，男人和女人都會(huì)感覺很輕松，并且能夠更容易地了解彼此。我的另一個(gè)朋友認(rèn)為，人們的社交生活正在因隨意的約會(huì)而得到改進(jìn)。當(dāng)想讓一個(gè)小伙子知道她對(duì)他有好感時(shí)，她就會(huì)說(shuō)：“嘿，我們一起去喝酸奶吧。”

與約翰第一次約會(huì)的時(shí)候，我還沒來(lái)得及提議AA制，他就突然掏出錢包付了賬。晚飯后散步時(shí)，他告訴我想與我建立穩(wěn)定的約會(huì)關(guān)系。我向他解釋道，我更想與他做普通朋友，他說(shuō)，要是買單時(shí)我堅(jiān)持付自己的那份，他就會(huì)明白我的意思。他辯解道：“我現(xiàn)在與女人約會(huì)時(shí)，已經(jīng)不會(huì)給她們買單了，各付各的會(huì)更加穩(wěn)妥和舒服?！奔s翰認(rèn)為我愛上他了，因?yàn)槲倚廊唤邮芰怂恼?qǐng)客。他因?yàn)榻o我買單而埋怨自己，我也很后悔接受了他的請(qǐng)客。

然而，與拉里第一次約會(huì)時(shí)，當(dāng)我提出自己買單時(shí)，他的臉漲紅了。當(dāng)我拉開手提包掏出錢包時(shí)，他看著我，就好像我用外語(yǔ)跟他說(shuō)了什么似的。我猶豫了一下，禮貌地問他：“我應(yīng)該付多少錢給你？”拉里不好意思地說(shuō)：“嗯，嗯，其實(shí)你不用付錢給我，但是，如果你堅(jiān)持……”

堅(jiān)持？我想了想。我只是提出AA制而已?？蓪?duì)拉里而言，這是在暗示我拒絕他。

他溜到了自己的座位，在我的肩膀上輕拍了一下，說(shuō)：“早，勞拉，在干什么呢？”

我猛地回過(guò)神兒來(lái)，緊張地答道：“嘿，早上好，周五下課后愿意和我一起吃午飯嗎？”

他興奮地說(shuō)：“你是說(shuō)期中考試之后嗎？我很愿意與你共進(jìn)午餐?！?

我微笑著說(shuō)：“那我們就這樣說(shuō)定了。”

Every day I anxiously wait for you to get to class.I can’t wait for us to smile at each other and say good morning.Some days，when you arrive only seconds before the lecture begins，I’m incredibly impatient.Instead of reading the Daily Cal，I anticipate your footsteps from behind and listen for your voice.Today is one of your late days.But，I don’t mind，because after a month of desperately desiring to ask you out，today I’m going to.Encourage me，because letting you know I like you seems as risky to me as skydiving into the sea.My roommate and her boyfriend were friends for four months before their chemistries clicked.They went to movies and meals and often got together with mutual friends.They alternated paying the dinner check.“He was like a girlfriend.”my roommate once laughed-blushing.Men and women relax and get to know each other more easily through such friendships.Another friend of mine believes that casual dating is improving people’s social lives.When she wants to let a guy know she is interested，she’ll say，“Hey，let’s go to get a yogurt.”

John whipped out his wallet on our first date before I could suggest we go Dutch.During our after-dinner stroll he told me he was interested in dating me on a steady basis.

After I explained I was more interested in a friendship，he told me he would have understood has I paid for my dinner.“I’ve practically stopped treating women on dates，”he said defensively，“It’s safer and more comfortable when we each pay for ourselves.”John has assumed that because I graciously accepted his treat，I was in love.He was mad at himself for treating me，and I regretted allowing him to.Larry，on the other hand，blushed when I offered to pay for my meal on ourfirst date.I unzipped my purse and flung out my wallet，and he looked at me as if I had addressed him in a foreign language.Hesitant，I asked politely，“How much do I owe you？”Larry muttered，“Uh，uh，you really don’t owe me anything，but if you insist...”Insist，I thought，I only offered.To Larry，my gesture was a suggestion of rejection.Sliding into his desk，he taps my shoulder and says，“Hi，Laura，what’s up？”“Good morning，”I answer with nervous chills，“Hey，how would you like to have lunch after class on Friday？”“You mean after the midterm？”he says encouragingly.“I’d love to go to lunch with you.”“We have a date.”I smile.